Above The Line

above the lineI can recall vividly arriving late for a business course, and I do believe I may have had a large cappuccino, takeaway, in my hand at the time. “Traffic was terrible” I asserted. The presenter challenged me on that. Rightly so. I was most definitely below the line. Apparently traffic was bad (so leave earlier, right?) and the queue at the coffee shop was also not helping my punctuality (so, don’t get a coffee, right?)

One of the many things I love about my new life is that I now operate daily in a paradigm of understanding that I can choose – above the line, or below the line. It is impossible to be a coach and spend your day living in the land of Denial, Blame and Excuses.

Living above the line gives you freedom, right now. Living above the line means taking 100% responsibility for your life and its current circumstances. That means you have the freedom to choose something different next time to create the result that you want in your life.

I often marvel at what we humans put ourselves through just to hand our responsibility over to someone else. It seems easier – but it isn’t!

Once you chose to look at your life through a lens of ownership, responsibility and accountability, instead of seeing all the problems, you start to see solutions. Instead of feeling that you are a victim with no choice, you feel like a survivor, with a raft of choices and opportunities ahead. Instead of something being “too hard”, you start to see that something is actually just “unfamiliar” and with time and practice it will become second nature.

Perhaps I wasn’t entirely above the line at the pool today where I skimped on the laps, but at least I know that if I want to swim further and be fitter, I certainly can.

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  1. Yes, getting used to taking responsibility for your actions can be initially rather uncomfortable and confronting, particularly the part where accountability happens more visibly! Developing that as your default choice though, rather than below the line which can often be simply habit, becomes so much more self-sustaining when you realise how much better and actually simper it feels to be your authentic self. That choice wins invaluable ‘self’ respect as well as potentially the respect of others, which I see as a bonus really. Thanks for that stimulating discussion, Pip dear.

  2. Thanks Pip for this insight. I have a client who regularly uses this paradigm with her children and I think it’s a great idea and empowerment to choose how we look at things.

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