They say that after arguments about sex, money is the number two thing that people argue about. Money is a strange, strange beast. Over the years I have read and thought and reflected on money to try to get upsides with it.

My pattern is to spend what I have, live from pay to pay. When I discovered Desire Mapping, which is the work of Danielle La Porte, I was quick to include Abundance as one of my Core Desired Feelings, to see if I could challenge that old, old pattern. I was, still am, a devoted Desire Mapper.

It all seemed to go so well for the first two years. All that Desire Mapping seemed to pay off as I finally landed a job that paid well, for the first time in my entire life! Then, I must have gotten complacent. Fast forward two years, to January 2017 when I decided, when reviewing my Core Desired Feelings, that I had conquered Abundance and could remove it from my list of Core Desired Feelings (CDFs for short). I launched into 2017 with these four CDFs: Congruent (doing what I say I’ll do), Creative, Free and Joyous.

And then, last month, there was that ghastly moment when darling husband asked if I would please refrain from buying my lunches on the joint account when I’ve worked my way through my entire salary. Ahem. It doesn’t help that he has actually been surviving on savings for nearly 18 months because he has had impeccable financial management techniques in place for the last 20 years. His polite and embarrassing request was just the wake up call I needed. It was time to jam on the brakes of overspending, and turn my financial ship around, so to speak.

I have started making my lunches again. I have pored through the many financial commitments I have unthinkingly signed up to and removed every single one that I can. Instead of just collecting data on my finances using that neat little Pocketbook app, I am actually looking at that data and constantly checking it against my financial goals.

And, I put Abundance back into my Core Desired Feelings, for good measure! I have made a little movie (after significant swearing and at least four hours more than I thought it would take) of my Core Desired Feelings and 2017 monthly goals and other Desire Map themed images here. Enjoy!

Desire Map 2017 Video

 

back to art classThis week I am celebrating being back in art class with the wonderful, extraordinary Dawn Meader. I so enjoyed ending the day at the Business Loan job immersing myself back into the world of creativity that Dawn manages to bring through in all of us.

I first started art classes with Dawn as I was stuck in my writing; and over and over again I find that allowing myself the time and space to join Dawn’s classes opens something up in me to allow the writing to flow through. It can’t be a coincidence that the final edits of my book were almost effortless today; just the opportunity to work on this pastel drawing last night I am sure did the magic! (PS Dawn still has places on her Bali and Italy retreats in case you were thinking of taking yourself to the next level as a human being!)

Before working with Dawn I was also stuck as a professional – working in a demanding job I felt trapped in – that job has now been replaced by my Business Loan Job.

The Business Loan Job is an interesting phenomenon; I first heard the term when I was listening to one of success coach Pamela Bruner’s many excellent teleclasses and I latched onto it. As someone who has always enjoyed work, I know that I take it one step further, and the job becomes a vocation.

Leaving the job that I was trapped in to securing the Business Loan job I have now has meant a totally different, lighter energy around work. The biggest plus of all is that I can finesse my business while I know I can meet all my financial commitments as a partner, mother and philanthropist. It can allow me to develop my business at an appropriate, realistic pace.

However, the Business Loan Job has a number of perils. At any moment you could forget what it was that you signed up to it for. It could creep its way into your heart and your dreams and try to re-work its magic to lure you back into vocation mode.

The security of a salary can constantly beckon to the “easier” life of a waged professional.

There have been some moments on late in my Business Loan Job where I have felt this happening.

So I have done what I need to do – reignite the creative spark and remind myself of the life I can create for myself as a creative entrepreneur.

Fan your creative spark, and keep on going for the vision. We all need what you and you alone can bring to the world!

 

rainbow detailIndulge me if you will. It’s my birthday on Tuesday, and I turn 49. Normally I have a birthday month, so for two weeks before, and two weeks after, I manage to stretch my birthday celebrations out in a variety of calorie-laden and sociable ways.  Somehow this year, it hasn’t happened.  I might be lucky to squeeze a week or two this year but the birthday month is just not materialising.

49 got me thinking; about 7 year cycles espoused by traditions such as Rudoph Steiner, numerology, reflected in the chakra system and on and on.

I have just finished my sixth 7 year cycle and am about to start my seventh. That seems significant.  A very long and detailed article on the phenomenon noted that from 42-48:

the unlived aspects of life cry out to be recognised and allowed. The desire to make a mark in life if it has not already been achieved presses for action here.

That certainly sounds about right.  Now that I am entering 49-55 cycle, this is what I have to look forward to:

This is when we take an inventory of our life. It’s a time of spiritual questioning and review of our life purpose. If we haven’t successfully understood who we are by this stage and achieved our goals, then depression, moodiness and turmoil will plague both our waking life and our dreams.

While I confess there was a certain selectivity in the sites I looked at (conveniently ignoring those who somehow indicated I was over the hill) it has been useful to reflect:

1. We women in particular REALLY need to live our dreams.  It is just not healthy for us if we don’t

2. Each age and stage needs to be celebrated for what it can offer us.

3.  When you are not keen on what the stage offers us, make up your own rules!  We are the architects of our personal, professional and spiritual lives.

4.  Age is just a number. I feel 27 so I am 27.

Now let the birthday celebrations begin!

Pip Brennan is a business coach who is passionate about supporting artistic and spiritual businesswomen to create profitable businesses that are aligned with their values.

20140502-135012.jpgAs the mother of a teenage girl I see someone almost daily assaulted with the question “what are you going to do when you grow up?”

It seems such an unfair question to ask a 15 year old who barely knows what they want to do tomorrow, let alone for the rest of their lives.

I think if we are all given a magic wand, we would ideally like to be able to make a living doing what it is that we love. What we love very often correlates with what we are good at, and can do without much effort. We get into a zone when we are utilising our core genius.

It’s all too easy to get a bit tunnel-visioned about what we can do. If we reflect for even a moment, as women, mothers, professionals, artists, creatives and/or entrepreneurs, we have had many different experiences and have learned many useful skills over our life. Sometimes we just need to find some time to reflect on these.

So for your visual people out there who enjoy a guided process and have about half an hour to spend, I put together a short (9 minute) audio, 100 Doors.

The exercise invites you to relax, and visualise a room full of doors. I picked 100, but really any number will do!

Behind each door is an expertise or skill that you can claim and open up your thinking about what you might like to do when you grow up. Definitely not to be used while driving, it’s quite sleep inducing! If it grabs your fancy and you want to have a go, click here.

imageThis week’s post is dedicated to focus. When I recorded interviews for the Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit I learned a lot – but there was one point that has stuck with me.

Ashley Ryan from Her Smart Marketing was interviewed as part of the series and said she talked about attending a seminar run by T Harv Ecker who noted that if there was just one piece of advice he could give, it was to focus.  Ashley says;

I thought this was BS but in hindsight really if I had focused I would be a multi-millionaire

Focus.  I have been thinking of this so much this week. I had two major focus distortion factors this week.  I am wondering if you can relate?

Distortion Factor 1: Bright Shiny Syndrome

You know, when the next exciting thing comes along and distracts you from your purpose.  This week I found myself on my Ipad checking out a neat little tool, The Social Enterprise Builder.  I started getting quite excited until I read that social enterprises are more complex than not for profits, more complex than for profits.  And I reflected; no, I do not need to start a social enterprise right now. I can stick to my do-able, current plan of being a sole trader and ONCE I have that absolutely down pat, THEN I can think about investigating being a sole trader. By then we might actually understand and welcome social enterprise into our paradigm here in Australia!

Focus Distortion 2: Failing to Focus on my Vision

As well as battling Bright Shiny Syndrome, I have also been falling into the trap of failing to focus on my vision. Second-guessing it and diluting it in a most dis-heartening manner.  “It’s not the right vision!” “It will never work!” You get the drill.

How to bust out of this cycle

Like a  magpie, I collect the wisdom of all the internet’s vast array of on-online training.  I recently heard a great tip from Suzanne Evans.  It helps you re-commit to your vision AND stay away from Bright Shiny Object syndrome:

If you understand that about 60 days is where our business attention span will start to sag or snap, you can be ready for this.  Set yourself a 60 day game plan, and review it!  That way, you can have a strategic Bright Shiny Object instead of a random one.  You can also keep on refining and refreshing your vision so that you can stay on task with where you want to go.

Simple hey?  But perhaps not easy!  So enough about me, what about you? How has your focus been this week?  Could you benefit from refreshing your focus and motivation with a new, focused 60 day plan?

FreebieIs your inbox anything like mine?   Mine is full to the brim of people that want to help me. Usually the help is in the form of some kind of freebie. You know, an e-book, a video, an email campaign…

The usual chain of events is that you click on the freebie, check out the person’s work, and pretty soon after that, an offer of some kind will be made to you and if you are as impulsive as my good self you may well find yourself signed up for the latest online training course.

There’s nothing wrong with this at all; but it is the usual case of Buyer Beware.  In my experience you may find yourself signed up for a course that is not right for where you are in business. So how do you know if a course is right for you? Try these questions on for size:

1. Do you need to be online, or out in the world?

If you are starting out in business as a solopreneur offering a service (coaching, health, spiritual services etc) then what you need more than anything is to get out from behind your computer and start meeting people and finding clients.  If you can’t sell face to face, you will struggle to sell online.  In other words, don’t spend time and money just yet in learning how to put together an online course.  Wait until you have the sort of client load that you are struggling to keep up with before you start investing in training for getting online.

2. Are you going to lurk, or learn?

Another important consideration is how well suited your learning style is to on-line learning.  While on-line group coaching programs can offer great value for money, it can be easy to get lost in the virtual crowd and fail to follow through on the work in the course, which means you may as well have thrown your money away.

3. Do you need to pay at all?

Be disciplined with your inbox offers, and stick to the freebies while you are getting your business up to speed. One particularly excellent freebie if you are really keen to maximise your website and leverage the opportunities of the on-line environment, is Nathalie Lussier’s 30 Day List Build. She has even made it now that you can move more easily between the 30 days of technical tips and tricks. It’s for the techie minded, but it really is a great resource.

Good luck, and here’s to finding the right support for you!

 

 

Kaya Singer PhotoThe Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit is drawing to a close. And yet there are still some very amazing women to come. It has been such a joy to put this together, and share it with everyone; it’s still free if you want to join in!

Kaya Singer’s interview was inspiring in many ways. She spoke to the common theme for businesswomen; not feeling good enough:

…a typical thing that women will do is that they will lower their prices way down, and they’ll give a lot for free. They’ll just do the work for free or keep offering too low a price and they’re struggling financially. And they do that because they think they’re not good enough, and so therefore they can’t charge very much.

Does that in any way sound familiar?

Kaya goes on to give some great tips about how to move through the lack of self-belief, and two important business strategies she developed to ensure her business is profitable.

If you want to listen in, be my guest.

Heather_ElliottToday’s interview being aired on The Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit was a fascinating one for me.
Heather Elliott specialises in changing limiting mind-sets. It’s just an unmissable stage of creating a life of abundance. Throughout the interview I experienced an interesting sense of calm energy – she just has that way about her!
I loved one of the things she said during the interview;

The first thing you have to do is create the quantum field and then the abundance can come

I was wondering when quantum physics was going to join the Abundance Summit, and thanks to Heather, it did! Heather’s description of her own journey and her current practice of Changing Limiting Mindsets makes for a great 30 minute listen.  If you want to tune in, just sign up on The Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit.

Jennifer Rose BryantFor today’s inspirational speaker on the Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit, I have taken the liberty of downloading a photo collage from facebook to celebrate her achievement – that is Jennifer Rose Bryant’s achievement finishing the 60km walk for the Weekend to End Women’s Cancers.

I love that she kept on right to the end – and the blisters were just the start of it!  I feel that she has shown us both the importance of persistence, and values.  She has shown both of these to an impressive degree this weekend!

When I interviewed Jennifer for the Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit (still free to sign up to!) it was clear that community is important to her; part of the whole, abundant picture of being a businesswoman.

Jennifer is also a gifted networker and has taken the networking group Women in Business WA to a whole new level since she took over running it.  In the interview we explored how the right partnerships will help you work smarter and get yourself to where you want to be more quickly.  Being around your peers really helps you to understand what you need to know, depending on what stage you are at with your business.

To listen in and enjoy her free gift, just sign up to the Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit.  I look forward to “seeing” you there!

 

Susan_BroughtonThe Abundant Businesswoman’s Summit would not be complete for me without the inclusion of Perth’s very own Abundance Expert, Susan Broughton.  And I wasn’t disappointed.

Her answer on what is abundance was thorough and thought provoking.  You can still sign up to listen if you want – just click on this link.  The interview series has been going for two weeks now, with a week left to run, but you can access all the previous speakers (and their juicy free gifts) once you are signed up.  Each daily email has them all there for you to enjoy.

But back to Susan.  She shared some common attitudes that particularly for women, can be blocks to abundance;

I don’t deserve anything better than I’ve already got

or perhaps even worse:

I don’t deserve what I’ve already got

Do any of these resonate? Perhaps you have held these sorts of beliefs unconsciously; but it is only through bringing them to consciousness that you can clear your own pathway to abundance.

She also highlighted the attitude of “I’d better get it for me before others do!”  Certainly in the early stages of business, there can be a lot of fear around being able to make a living through your business; but this “grabby” mentality will block abundance.  It is a constant exercise in self-discipline, to avoid feeling that competitive, even desperate edge.  Abundance really is there.  It’s all in our mindset; if we can bring some attention to our abundance beliefs, we have a fantastic starting place to develop our business ideas into reality.